Adoption
Every few weeks or so, there seems to be a new story in the news or online that discusses the utter misery of any adoptees. We are apparently a miserable and confused bunch. (In the interest of honesty here, I am myself an adoptee.)
Never fail, the one who penned said stories aren’t (usually) actually adopted themselves, but never the less they feel as if they need to speak for all of ‘adopted kind’.
The make quite a few leaps of logic, assuming they wonder how they would feel and use that.
They’ve come up with a new disease naturally effecting those adopted individuals.
Adopted child syndrome is a controversial term that has been used to explain behaviors in adopted children that are claimed to be related to their adoptive status. Specifically, these include problems in bonding, attachment disorders, lying, stealing, defiance of authority, and acts of violence.
From Wikipedia
These stories used to at one point came as a surprise to myself, even in knowing many adoptees over the years. The only real emotion involved is being grateful to their biological parent(s) for making the decision they did.
In fact, I have yet to hear a standard tale of misery due to being adopted, or so much as an expression of anything other than general curiosity of their heritage (which is a completely natural response).
The main common thread that I’ve experienced with other ‘adoptees” is: they are eternally grateful to their parents for giving them a loving and stable home. It may be hard to understand for someone who’s not experienced with adoption how you can see different parents the way you do.
There’s a biological parent, who has given you life- and your parents who gives you love, understanding, and a home.
There’s no universal feelings with most things, and adoption and one’s feelings are an intensely personal thing. There is no absolutes, especially when it comes to emotions. Just because one would assume they know how someone else should feel in a situation doesn’t necessarily make that assumption correct.
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