Parenting Through The Generations
Talking to some of the women in my family, it seems a bit more apparent there really is a bit of a vast difference in parenting through the generations. Something that wasn’t all that positively proven in my mind beforehand.
There has been the occasional story which does seem to back up this thinking.
Admittedly I’m unsure if it’s a difference in the ways family is looked at between the generations, or maybe even just some rotten apples in my family tree.
Yet, my mother and her side of my family (for the most part) feel blessed for their children, no matter how they are turned out as adults. They can still recall every little thing that they love about having kids. They’ve always treated each child in their family as an individual, and celebrated every talent and let them bloom on their own, with some firm but still gentile guidance.
Some other members of my extended family seem to look at their own children, although now grown and having children of their own, as some kind of horrible burden. Something that life was callous enough, no- cruel enough to force upon them.
This isn’t to say they don’t care, but they do show it vastly differently.
After reading up on the topic, something interesting does seem to appear. There is a sort of cylindrical cycle in parenting. At least so claims a study done since WWI.
Presently the cycle is turning from so called ‘Child-Centered’ or as some critics say- Helicopter Parenting, to a less intense approach.
The boomer generation’s more hands on approach has them a bit worried, yet it’s looking as if children who were raised by that generation are actually doing quite well.
In a study of 100 urban, middle-class families with a mother, father and adult child between the ages of 23-27, Irit Yanir of the University of Haifa “found close families actually produce more independent children. Contrary to parents’ fears, adult children with close parental ties were more financially self-sufficient and more independent in their daily lives; it didn’t matter whether they lived with their parents. Young adults with emotionally distant relationships were less independent in their late 20s and tended to make decisions based on wanting to either please or rebel,” Yanir explained to writer Sharon Jayson in USA TODAY.
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