Talking To Your Child About Sex

Posted by Dawn

December 1, 2009

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Talking to children about sex can potentially go along with it can easily rank among many parents largest fears. It is understandably, one of the most uncomfortable conversations that many parents dread, yet it still remains a huge necessity. A parent has the chance to help create an atmosphere of understanding and acceptance about the consequences of their children.

There has been, especially in recent years a surge in teens effected by pregnancy and STDs. Many parents assume that their children are responsible and knowledgeable enough to not have to worry. Some others attempt at placing the blame on the shoulders of schools. It’s frightening, but sadly and unfortunately a fact.

If a parent isn’t talking to their children, friends will. Due to general misunderstanding and general ignorance, the same friends more than likely aren’t the most accurate sources by far.

Yet, having that same conversation is still an important task for parents. Starting earlier may help, and losing any imaginative stories. Many studies have been showing that a parent who has been open and honest with their child may fair better. While it may still be uncomfortable, it seems that the best bet is indeed honesty.

In talking with your child or adolescent, it is helpful to:

Encourage your child to talk and ask questions.
Maintain a calm and non-critical atmosphere for discussions.
Use words that are understandable and comfortable.
Try to determine your child’s level of knowledge and understanding.
Keep your sense of humor and don’t be afraid to talk about your own discomfort.
Relate sex to love, intimacy, caring, and respect for oneself and one’s partner.
Be open in sharing your values and concerns.
Discuss the importance of responsibility for choices and decisions.
Help your child to consider the pros and cons of choices.

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While every parent is different, it may help to start early. You may want to keep everything age and development appropriate, but with time it may become easier.

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